One of my gifts from blogging is the joy of knowing Bhavana Nissima, a sentiment shared, I am certain, by all who have known her. All. I love her distinctive approach to things we see around us. Her posts question what we take for granted, yet in a very gentle, non-confrontational way.
When we announced a blogger's meet in Hyderabad in 2012, she caught a bus (after missing her train) and came to encourage us all the way from Chennai. Her posts blend social responsibility with her personal quest, with her commitment to reclaiming the feminine and with quiet moments of self disclosure. The result is a fine tapestry of thoughts and feelings (and a lot of facts) that reaches far beyond the individual and showcases what we as a people are truly capable of. This also comes through in photography illustrating her posts (as well as on her photography blog, Photobhavna).
Bhavana embodies the belief that concern by itself, unaccompanied by action, is of little value. In this guest post, she sheds light on the very essence of the journey from conflict to wholeness - Dialog. Before my introduction becomes longer than the post itself, over to Bhavana.
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I began this piece the day after the Hyderabad bomb blasts, sitting in an office not far from Dilsukh Nagar�the site of the blasts. In some, there was anger, in some, helplessness, in some, a real physical pain, a loss, and for others life went on� �lite teesko� as they kept reminding me.
A stream of fresh air blew through the crack in the window reminding me to think afresh, anew and to think of dialog again. Yes, even now.
You see when folks think of the word dialog, they think of two people sitting together, in a polite, civil manner, talking soft sweet words to each other, listening and comprehending and that after sometime folks come to an understanding--a consensus.
What is the use of dialog when we are speaking in chorus? What is the use of dialog when we are already in agreement? When what is at stake is not important enough? When memories don�t hurt enough? When values are not deeply rooted enough?
Dialog when you believe that a dialog is impossible. And here is how. Not a full and a sure how. But a �thereabouts� how.
Pre-DialogDialog begins within yourself first. This is the toughest area of dialog.
1. Dialog is sometimes not even with a person or a community�it may happen with a book or an idea or a faith. It is not so much an �inter� process as it is an �intra� process.
2. If you are psychologically or materially invested in the issue, you have to develop an emotional distance from the topic, a process I call as �disidentification.� Identify ways in which the issues prick you and ponder on their roots. Then disidentify by mindfully observing the thoughts that course through your mind and work on being still.
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